GET COURT READY FOR PROFESSIONALS
DOMESTIC ABUSE IS NOT A GENDER ISSUE
Preconceptions about domestic abuse must be dispelled to accurately observe domestic abuse.
PARENTAL ALIENATION IS REAL
This is a deeply damaging method of control which impacts children and parents for life.
ABUSERS PERFORM WELL IN COURT
Often the abuser shows themselves as calm and rational in court for the purpose of getting professionals on their side.
Most Family Court Solicitors Know That Outcomes For Families Are Not Great Right Now
With lengthy delays and regular changes in personnel, it can be hard to find resolutions which last and which don’t add to the conflict.
If you’re like most solicitors, then you are probably overloaded with cases and spread very thinly, which can be especially difficult with domestic abuse cases or cases involving high conflict individuals which are complex and require more of your time and energy.
You might be feeling like you aren’t able to give your clients the attention you would ideally like to and that can have an impact on your own well-being. You chose the legal profession because you believe in justice for all and yet you probably feel like that isn’t happening right now.
The recent Ministry of Justice report “Assessing risk of harm to children and parents in private law children cases" detailed massive failings in the system designed to protect and safeguard families and in particular children.
I doubt any of it came as a surprise to you!
It didn’t to me either. I have been working with families involved in private law proceedings for the last few years (and prior to that in public law proceedings) and, although I believe the report didn’t fully address the experiences of fathers in family court, the findings accurately portrayed the stories I hear from my clients on a daily basis.
It was due to hearing so many of these harrowing stories of injustice and betrayal by those trained and charged with protecting these families at a highly stressful time in their lives, that I created the Get Court Ready programme.
I wanted to “level the playing field” for all victims of abuse. To ensure that they felt more confident in presenting their evidence in a way which didn’t play into the false narrative of them being an abuser or unstable. To provide tools to help them emotionally recover whilst being exposed to more trauma.
As an ex social worker, I also wanted to help the system recover. I know that the majority of people who work within the Family Court arena care about people. They want the best outcomes. The present system isn’t helping anyone and I decided there must be something I can do about that.
The Get Court Ready Professional Partner Programme gives you the opportunity to help your clients navigate a broken system and emerge with more confidence, clarity and credibility.
PREPARE YOUR CLIENTS WITH GET COURT READY
When clients work through the Get Court Ready program they can accurately document coercive control in a way that courts can recognise.
Clients get better outcomes for themselves and their children because they are able to show the reality of the situation rather than the abusers narrative.
The benefits of Get Court Ready:
It is the only fully inclusive programme of it’s kind so is accessible for all
We believe that victims come from all walks of life, socio-economic backgrounds, races, genders, sexuality and ages. Our course is fully inclusive.
It empowers the client to take control of their own lives through the court process and beyond into the co-parenting relationship
You know that the court is only one part of the jigsaw in these cases and even with a solid court order, your client needs the skills to be able to manage their ex without the constant need for legal intervention. Our course empowers them with those lifelong skills.
It is free to the client meaning everyone has access to the same support
Not everyone has unlimited funds and even if they do, their ex might be restricting access and dragging them through complex financial hearings, meaning they need to make smart financial decisions sometimes at the detriment of their case. As a Profession Partner, you can offer our course for free to your clients so they don't have to miss out on what they need.
It reduces your exposure to the trauma, thus reducing your stress levels and the risk of vicarious trauma and compassion fatigue
High conflict cases take their toll on case holders including solicitors. Get Court Ready provides a buffer for yourself or your team to put boundaries in place to protect their long term mental-health.
It stabilises the client for the “in between” hearing times, which is when they are most vulnerable
You can't be with your client 24/7 and often it is those "inbetween" times where they can react inappropriately, damaging their case. Get Court Ready will help them to develop the skills and emotional resilience to manage their ex more effectively as well as professionals, helping you to get reports which reflect the reality of the case.
It organises the evidence making it easier to create a clear strategy and present the strongest parts of your case faster
Most clients in high conflict cases come armed with reams of evidence but, due to their trauma, are unable to coherently organise it and thus it's relevance is hard to distinguish, meaning you often miss hugely important aspects which, when revealed later, seem like retaliation rather than delayed recall. Get Court Ready provides the tools to help them record and then organise evidence into relevance in terms of strength and value from a forensic perspective. It also helps them to translate this into child focused language.
It gives the clients the tools to manage their emotions and regulate themselves without relying on you or the outcomes
Most clients in these types of cases have developed complex PTSD which is further exacerbated by the court process. This presents as a flight, flight, freeze or fawn response in court which can easily be manipulated to "confirm" an abusive exes narrative about them. Get Court Ready has psychological and somatic healing tools to help them recognise and regulate their emotional responses, helping them present as calm, confident and coherent.
It reduces the length of time spent in the court arena as there is more clarity from the start
Once a client becomes more emotionally regulated, they are able to present their evidence in a clear and meaningful way which often results in their ex becoming more and more dysregulated and emotionally explosive, helping to reveal the truth must faster and obtain a court order which reflects the real risk of an abusive parent.
It enforces strong boundaries between you and your client so that you can focus on managing the case rather than the client
Many victims of abuse are looking to you to rescue them from their abuser and as such, they can begin to rely upon you for their emotional regulation. Without strong boundaries, many solicitors are easily drawn into the drama and can become overly invested in the case, which will result in long term stress. Get Court Ready is that boundary.
It is an ongoing resource which they can access forever
In high conflict cases a Final Order is rarely the end of the matter and you will probably find your client back in court within the year. Get Court Ready has lifetime access so you can simply remind them to log in and revisit the modules most relevant to them.
Refer your clients today
And we will offer them a 10% discount in your name
Or read on to see how you can offer the programme for free to show them how much you care about their well-being
PREPARE YOUR CASE
GET COURT READY tackles some of the toughest issues highlighted in the Ministry of Justice Report "Assessing risk of harm to children and parents in private law children cases."
The report demonstrates concerns around how family court system recognises and responds to allegations of and proven harm to children and victim parents in private law children proceedings.
GET COURT READY provides a system to record and evidence abuse effectively.
There are deep-seated and systemic issues affecting how risk to both children and adults is identified and managed.
GET COURT READY covers assessing and managing risk to help parents manage their expectations and what professionals deem as risk.
Resources are inadequate to keep up with demand.
GET COURT READY is an online resource available to all parties which will support them between hearings and reduce the length of time spent in court.
There are challenges evidencing abuse and preconceptions about how victims "should" behave.
GET COURT READY includes emotional regulation and healing practices to help victims with their presentation.
There are serious difficulties for litigants in person in attempting to navigate the complexities of PD12J without legal advice.
GET COURT READY empowers the client to take control of their case and recommends legal advice and support throughout.
Victims are retraumatised throughout the court process.
GET COURT READY is focused on trauma recovery and designed to help the client process their experience whilst preparing them for a less traumatic court process.
Cross-examination of victims is traumatising
GET COURT READY teaches clients how to present their evidence and themselves with confidence, clarity and credibility.
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Discover how GET COURT READY can enhance your service and help protect you and your clients from the trauma of abuse in family court.
What You'll Get
The professionals package includes over £4,000 worth of support to help up to 20 clients from just £49 per person.
- Online GET COURT READY PROGRAM so clients can process what's happened in their relationship, understand what is likely to happen in court and the specific dynamics of legal abuse and post separation abuse, and begin the healing process.
- The PARENTAL ALIENATION SURVIVAL GUIDE so they can understand what's happening with practical ways to cope.
- GET COURT READY WORKBOOK for clients to work through the course, further their understanding and record their learning.
- NEURO-RESILLIANCE TOOLKIT to empower clients, reduce conflict and avoid re-traumatisation throughout the family court process.
- CASE SPECIFIC REPORT WRITING so you can present the case in relation to the legal domestic abuse framework.
- BIFF RESPONSES to help clients communicate in a respectful, non-violent manner with professionals and the ex partner